Christian Anti-Porn Ministries Battle Women’s ‘Porn Addiction’

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Originally posted on Alternet. Written By Lynn Harris

These groups appear to be helpful to many women. But are they ministering to — or even perpetuating — sexual problems the Christian church has created?

Adelaide Brown (not her real name), 29, had, until recently, a big problem with porn. “I would spend every moment after work enthralled in it and stay up almost all night seeking pleasure and relief,” she says.

Hormones and curiosity raging, she wandered into chat rooms at age 13, where she found adult men to be quite generous with nude photos of themselves. That (which she now realizes was abuse) led to an increasingly ardent search for visual stimulation, which ballooned two years ago into endless sessions on PornTube — and what Brown calls full-on addiction. “I would cancel plans with friends and family just so I could be home alone and soak myself in porn,” she says. “It took away my life.”

When Brown, a single schoolteacher in Seattle who calls herself an “outside the box” Christian, tried to confess to a couple of friends, she found they were more judgmental than supportive. Seeking help from conservative Christian books and porn-addiction recovery Web sites — and there are many — made her feel even more alone. “Everywhere I looked, it was all about men. Finding resources for women was nearly impossible,” she says. “There were people who assured me that I was not alone as a woman but I didn’t believe it. I truly believed I was the only woman struggling with this. That just made me even more ashamed.”

Non-Christian resources didn’t help either. “They didn’t really see anything wrong with porn” in the first place, says Brown, who believes masturbation and sex before marriage are wrong, too. Result: “There wasn’t a lot of help out there for me.”

That was until she found XXXChurch, one of the first conservative Christian ministries for problem porn users, and one of the first to reach out specifically to women. “It was when I finally realized that I was not alone as a woman struggling with porn that I gained the confidence and strength I needed to move forward,” Adelaide says.

As the New York Times reported earlier this month, more and more porn-recovery workshops are emerging, in church basements and Web sites, to cater specifically to conservative Christian women. (Here and throughout, “Christian,” even without “conservative,” refers to Christian movements often also described as “fundamentalist” or “evangelical.”) While an easy target for secular snickering, this trend actually — narrowly speaking — may constitute a step forward: providing a haven from shame for women like Brown, for whom non-Christian help might not resonate in the first place, and representing a certain collective, overdue, Christian realization that women have sexual agency at all. But are these groups just ministering to — or even perpetuating — sexual problems the Christian church has had a hand in creating?

The notion that Christian women might, gasp, ever peek at porn is still a “Not in OUR church!” newsflash for some. As XXXChurch founder Craig Gross told the Times, “The problem is, most churches have male leadership, and if you want to pitch a [porn recovery event for women], they’ll say, ‘Our women don’t struggle with that.’” Except, of course, they do; that invisibility, as in Brown’s case, just makes the struggle worse.

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Lets face it, a few weeks ago Scott Brown’s chances of winning were about as high as my being invited to an orgy with Scarlett Johansson, Megan Fox, and Tiger Woods. But then again, politics makes for strange bedfellows.

A unremorseful truck owner auctioning off his daughter’s defeats a mealy-mouthed walking apology.  A cipher looses to a tea bagger. In other words, the quintessence of the democratic party and the republican party square off to decide who will be the heir to Ted Kennedy’s Senate seat and I – a both a resident of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts and of the Imperial Empire of The United States of America am supposed to be upset when Martha Coakley can’t go to Washington and deliver the big fat windfall for health care insurance companies masquerading health care reform?

This is what we’ve come to?

Try to digest this daily dose of irony folding back in on itself: insiders in the Republican Party are quietly disappointed that Brown won. Why? Because, according to the astute analysis laid out before the special election by former West Wing staffer Lawrence O’Donnell:

Scott Brown will destroy the Democrats’ plan to pass health care reform. But he will also destroy the Republicans’ not-so-secret plan to pass health care reform.

O’Donnell explains that while the Republicans tried to look obstructionist to the media and tea baggers and closet white supremacists everywhere, Republican leader Mitch McConnell entered a unanimous consent agreement with Harry Reid about how to proceed on the health care bill. meaning in essence, that it was going to make it impossible for Republicans to amend the bill and would put it on a fast track toward passage.

I repeat – the Republican put the bill on a fast track towards passage.

And why not? What we now call Obama care looks a helleva a lot like the plan we have in Massachusetts, instituted by a Republican Governor during a time when, you guessed it, Scott Brown was a State Senator. Mandating coverage is not a liberal idea; it is a boon to Wall Street portfolios brimming with health care insurance stocks.

The GOP’s plan, hatched at a time when Scott Brown was in fact the snowball and the reality you live in was in fact hell, was to pass the ObamaCare bill and then use “repeal it, repeal it!” as the rally cry for the 2010 midterm elections.

In other words, something was actually going to get done in Washington, but it was not what the Democrats wanted. Nor was it what the Republicans wanted; something was gong to get done in Washington, for once on a way, precisely because no one wanted it to happen.

When you people finally wake up and realize it is all a game, the even the very astute writer cited in this video,

Are you beginning to understand that you never win at 3 card Monty. And when the Ace of diamonds doesn’t come up, after you have studied the cards again and again just to plunk down your $100 and you lose, only to realize that everyone around you, the dealer, the high rollers, the winners, the losers, that the Lawrence O’Donnell I cite earlier in this piece was not a staffer in The White House’s West Wing, but on NBC’s West Wing, what do you do? That everyone is in on the shell game, everyone but you- and the game is breaking up, and all the actors are scattering in different directions. Who do you chase?

Commiserate with Keith Olberman? Or Google pictures of Scarlet Johansson and Megan Fox?

No really, what do you do?

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