Christian Anti-Porn Ministries Battle Women’s ‘Porn Addiction’

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Originally posted on Alternet. Written By Lynn Harris

These groups appear to be helpful to many women. But are they ministering to — or even perpetuating — sexual problems the Christian church has created?

Adelaide Brown (not her real name), 29, had, until recently, a big problem with porn. “I would spend every moment after work enthralled in it and stay up almost all night seeking pleasure and relief,” she says.

Hormones and curiosity raging, she wandered into chat rooms at age 13, where she found adult men to be quite generous with nude photos of themselves. That (which she now realizes was abuse) led to an increasingly ardent search for visual stimulation, which ballooned two years ago into endless sessions on PornTube — and what Brown calls full-on addiction. “I would cancel plans with friends and family just so I could be home alone and soak myself in porn,” she says. “It took away my life.”

When Brown, a single schoolteacher in Seattle who calls herself an “outside the box” Christian, tried to confess to a couple of friends, she found they were more judgmental than supportive. Seeking help from conservative Christian books and porn-addiction recovery Web sites — and there are many — made her feel even more alone. “Everywhere I looked, it was all about men. Finding resources for women was nearly impossible,” she says. “There were people who assured me that I was not alone as a woman but I didn’t believe it. I truly believed I was the only woman struggling with this. That just made me even more ashamed.”

Non-Christian resources didn’t help either. “They didn’t really see anything wrong with porn” in the first place, says Brown, who believes masturbation and sex before marriage are wrong, too. Result: “There wasn’t a lot of help out there for me.”

That was until she found XXXChurch, one of the first conservative Christian ministries for problem porn users, and one of the first to reach out specifically to women. “It was when I finally realized that I was not alone as a woman struggling with porn that I gained the confidence and strength I needed to move forward,” Adelaide says.

As the New York Times reported earlier this month, more and more porn-recovery workshops are emerging, in church basements and Web sites, to cater specifically to conservative Christian women. (Here and throughout, “Christian,” even without “conservative,” refers to Christian movements often also described as “fundamentalist” or “evangelical.”) While an easy target for secular snickering, this trend actually — narrowly speaking — may constitute a step forward: providing a haven from shame for women like Brown, for whom non-Christian help might not resonate in the first place, and representing a certain collective, overdue, Christian realization that women have sexual agency at all. But are these groups just ministering to — or even perpetuating — sexual problems the Christian church has had a hand in creating?

The notion that Christian women might, gasp, ever peek at porn is still a “Not in OUR church!” newsflash for some. As XXXChurch founder Craig Gross told the Times, “The problem is, most churches have male leadership, and if you want to pitch a [porn recovery event for women], they’ll say, ‘Our women don’t struggle with that.’” Except, of course, they do; that invisibility, as in Brown’s case, just makes the struggle worse.

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Tiger Woods’ Masters Press Conference. Why can’t we say “sex addiction”?


Tiger Woods’ Masters Press Conference. Why can’t we say “sex addiction”?
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When the Tiger Woods Scandal first broke, Britt Hume said that the extent that Tiger can recover from this scandal depends upon his faith. In the type of culturally sensitive commentary that Fox News has become know for, the senior analyst (Hume) for the network said:

“The extent to which he can recover seems to me depends on his faith,” Hume said. “He is said to be a Buddhist. I don’t think that faith offers the kind of forgiveness and redemption that is offered by the Christian faith. My message to Tiger would, ‘Tiger, turn to the Christian faith and you can make a total recovery and be a great example to the world.”

Never mind that the Christian Faith counts amongst its leaders some of the worlds most destructive sex addicts, with the Vatican quickly becoming a playboy mansion for pederasts and pedophiles, Brit Hume’s little bit of “My God is better than your God” had a very important sliver of truth embedded in it.

America, this one Nation under God, in the service of Wall Street with the help of Madison Avenue sells everything (clothes, mortgages, sex, wars, Davis Fleetwood DVD’s and books, available May 1st from No Cure For That) through the manipulation and careful application of recycled narratives.

As a Christian Nation, one familiar narrative that sells well is that of redemption.

So- even though Woods mentioned that he is still a practicing Buddhist, his press conference was a Christo-American affair.

I’m sorry. He said. For what? He never said, “Sex addict”. Nor did he say the word sex. Or Rachel Uchtiel is now in the Guinness Book of World records the highest paid sex machine ever to dig for gold.

As I said last week, the drive to be the best, to squelch all competition, that quality that is at the heart of both Capitalism and America- that is what needs to be under the microscope in the wake of Tiger-Gate. As both a master and the product of Hypercapitalism, a carefully crafted product for our consumption the life and times of Tiger Woods pre sex addict scandal were more fiction than fact.

Did Tiger Humanize himself enough to reclaim his place as the billion dollar pitchman? He said:

“Golf… winning tournaments.. . all of that does not matter now. What matters now is living life the right way.”

By bowing to the Christo-Corporate Gods while maintaining his Buddhist faith while maintain a vice like grip on his own evolving personal narrative, Tiger Woods is at the forefront of the evolving marriage between religiously based morals and a consumer based, post reality TV culture where we know the reality being presented to us is, in many ways, a lie, but we just want a good story.

This week, as the second coming of Nike’s messiah begins, we probably will not get to know the real Tiger any better. Weathered, and brandishing a few scars, Tiger will become a much more likeable – and bankable figure.

Even I’m gonna watch golf this weekend. So should you.

Go on, just do it.®

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